Whether you are in the throws of raising your kids or are an empty nester with older kids I think we can all relate to absentminded parenting. I just made that word up..actually. I get so caught up in the day to day details and the big stresses of life that take up space in my mind that I am NOT mindful. Anyway, I sadly find myself in this absent minded place. I could be making dinner and thinking about what else has to be done. My daughter will start to tell me something and I will just talk right over her as if she is saying nothing. "Did you finish your homework? Because you have laundry to put away" I do this alot. Talk over them to get my thoughts, orders, what needs to be done...OUT. I am a bad listener. This is my biggest challenge..I am going to make a conscious effort to quiet my mind , let the laundry wait and listen. Just listen to their little voices. I know my middle schooler needs me to listen now more than ever.
I recently painted the fridge with chalkboard paint. And my 2 youngest will doodle and write me messages while we are in the kitchen. My son wrote me this message above and it reminds me everyday to LISTEN. After all, we all need and want to be heard.
Great post, Jennifer! Listening really is a true art, and I think one of the greatest gifts we can give to our children, and to each other.
ReplyDeleteThis is wonderful Jennifer. My kids are in college and so YES! I totally get the listening (or lack of) issue. As Mom's we are multitasking constantly and it's tough to stay focused. Honestly there have been times I've felt as if I may have ADD! Slowing down, deep breathing, getting rest - all seemed to help me focus and become a better listener. This is something we all know we SHOULD do - but don't. Great thoughts and thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteYes! I'm with you! Great post!
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